Relationship Guidelines
Posted on | October 6, 2003 | No Comments
Key points to follow for any relationship but key to building a lasting loving unified relationship. I have been reading a lot lately and found solace in my efforts to find peace and these words make so much sense, yet seem so hard to practice. I wonder why that is
– Be courteous to one another at all times. Courtesy will lend a magic to your relationship. Politeness, thoughtfulness , and consideration will increase your respect and love for one another. Remember to say “Please,” “Excuse me,” “Thank you,” “I beg your pardon,” to each other, even in the privacy of your home.
– Learn to communicate. A couple must communicate daily. Talk to each other, look at each other; listen to each other. Communicate with tenderness, with hugs and kisses. Keep no secrets from one another.
– Give in to each other. Give in more than 50% of the time. It takes humility and detachment to do it, but learn to give in. Don’t simmer with anger, hostility, or resentment. Don’t hang on to grudges. Sacrifice for each other. Say to your partner: “I’m sorry,” or “I made a mistake,” or “I was wrong,” or “Please accept my apology.”
– Resolve never to nag. Nagging causes disharmony, tensions, and grief. Avoid it from the start. Try not to give orders to your mate. Instead of saying, “Go close the window,” you could say, “Do you think it’s a good idea to shut the window before we leave?”
– Always encourage your partner. Give your mate daily encouragement and assistance. Don’t let little things bother you. Look at the good, and forget the other qualities. Strive for forgiveness and magnanimity. Never tear your partner down. Try to develop his or her good qualities.
– Reciprocity in marriage. A good marriage requires reciprocity and interaction. And to interact meaningfully one needs time, patience, and a willingness to listen. If you are in a hurry, it is impossible to interact. You cannot always be frantic and rushed and hope to develop your marriage in a spiritual direction. Therefore, arrange some periods of peace and quiet each day.
– A couple must plan to enjoy periods of rest, relaxation, and fun together. If possible, plan some kind of recreation each week: walk together, sing, swim, talk, laugh together. Be together- just the two of you.
Such simple and common sense thoughts, like listening, its a difficult thing to do if not practiced daily. A goal would be to find myself acting, living and modeling these words without knowing it, have the actions become who I am internally and how I am perceived by others.
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