Assumptions
Posted on | October 13, 2003 | No Comments
It is the assumption left unsaid but believed that is bound to harm the most.
Attitude is everything
Posted on | October 9, 2003 | No Comments
Its true of most things in life, but more especially true during times of great challenges or obstacles or when physical ailments arise and a portion of what life brings us is out of our control.
How do we deal or cope with things that are seemingly out of our control. Our attitude can overcome many obstacles and can actually prevent them with the right outlook and inner confidence and perseverance towards an end goal. But what of things that through no fault of our own, no matter how good we take care of ourselves things happen that are counter to all the good and prevention we employ?
Attitude towards oneself. Instead of cursing down the gods, looking for reasons, explanations and answers that can never explain or solve or correct the ailment
Extending ourselves (rambling)
Posted on | October 8, 2003 | No Comments
How do we extend ourselves when there is no trauma…
Many thoughts and phrases surround the idea of how people grow or exceed expectations in times of difficult challenges are everywhere. Stories talk about great triumphs and things that people can do when pushed against the wall, many heroic stories tell tales of perseverance and achievements.
Is this for the few and the distinct, the ones who have an internal drive that is unique? Does it always have to be such a huge triumph over insurmountable odds to be considered achievement? Is just existing in life dealing with daily pain and heartache, set-backs and minor tragedies worthy of such accolades in the same fashion as the hero? If one endures a life not of romantics natures, one of daily existence with general highs and lows, and performs not a huge swing to one side or the other, does this person exist on a level any greater or lower than the hero?
Does it always take great blockades to give rise to personal greatness? And what is a great blockade? Can personal huge setbacks to one person be a minor inconvenience to another? What if a person lives a relatively simple life, has personal struggles and interpersonal challenges and demons to contend with still live a hero
The Four Agreements
Posted on | October 6, 2003 | No Comments
This is outstanding, a book that I have read in “skimming” fashion, thoughts was good, but now upon reflection I did a disservice by not fully reading it and learning from it…
So I bring it up again to myself and make this a “sticking point” so I embody it more into my daily life.
Be Impeccable With Your Word
– Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t Take Anything Personally
– Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t Make Assumptions
– Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. Wit just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best
– Your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
The
Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a Practical Guide to Personal Freedom and a worthy read to add to personal wisdom, an amazing book
Relationship Guidelines
Posted on | October 6, 2003 | No Comments
Key points to follow for any relationship but key to building a lasting loving unified relationship. I have been reading a lot lately and found solace in my efforts to find peace and these words make so much sense, yet seem so hard to practice. I wonder why that is
– Be courteous to one another at all times. Courtesy will lend a magic to your relationship. Politeness, thoughtfulness , and consideration will increase your respect and love for one another. Remember to say “Please,” “Excuse me,” “Thank you,” “I beg your pardon,” to each other, even in the privacy of your home.
– Learn to communicate. A couple must communicate daily. Talk to each other, look at each other; listen to each other. Communicate with tenderness, with hugs and kisses. Keep no secrets from one another.
– Give in to each other. Give in more than 50% of the time. It takes humility and detachment to do it, but learn to give in. Don’t simmer with anger, hostility, or resentment. Don’t hang on to grudges. Sacrifice for each other. Say to your partner: “I’m sorry,” or “I made a mistake,” or “I was wrong,” or “Please accept my apology.”
– Resolve never to nag. Nagging causes disharmony, tensions, and grief. Avoid it from the start. Try not to give orders to your mate. Instead of saying, “Go close the window,” you could say, “Do you think it’s a good idea to shut the window before we leave?”
– Always encourage your partner. Give your mate daily encouragement and assistance. Don’t let little things bother you. Look at the good, and forget the other qualities. Strive for forgiveness and magnanimity. Never tear your partner down. Try to develop his or her good qualities.
– Reciprocity in marriage. A good marriage requires reciprocity and interaction. And to interact meaningfully one needs time, patience, and a willingness to listen. If you are in a hurry, it is impossible to interact. You cannot always be frantic and rushed and hope to develop your marriage in a spiritual direction. Therefore, arrange some periods of peace and quiet each day.
– A couple must plan to enjoy periods of rest, relaxation, and fun together. If possible, plan some kind of recreation each week: walk together, sing, swim, talk, laugh together. Be together- just the two of you.
Such simple and common sense thoughts, like listening, its a difficult thing to do if not practiced daily. A goal would be to find myself acting, living and modeling these words without knowing it, have the actions become who I am internally and how I am perceived by others.